As the saying goes, "It takes two to tango." Literally, in a relationship, both should give and take and not only take and take. To make a relationship work, each person should think of the other person's needs and wants. The most important thing here is the love that they both share. It is never going to work if the relationship goes in one-way. Since there are two persons involved, it should always be a two-way relationship. Below is a list of some of the reasons why relationships fail:
1.) MISUNDERSTANDING =
this is one of the most common reasons why couples fight. Sometimes, the words used aren't exactly what they mean. Like with text messaging, abbreviations in text messages sometimes can be mistaken for another word which causes them to fight more.
2.) JEALOUSY =
if the man or woman is too jealous of so many things, like work, friends, family, pets, etc. it would always resolve into breaking up. I know some people who broke up because of these reasons. A person has to balance their time with their partners in order for them keep track of their relationship. If one of them gives top priority for friends or work, and sort of neglects the partner, it may resolve to break ups.
3.) "WE'RE JUST FRIENDS!" (THIRD PARTY) =
yeah right! You're just friends but your partner caught you cuddling in a cozy restaurant! Who would believe that?
4.) LYING =
No one likes being lied to especially when the one lying is the one you love. Some people would call their partners and say, "Honey, I have meeting so we won't be able to meet tonight". Then, you see your partner in a bar with his friends or a friend of his would mention what they did last night.
5.) POSSESSIVENESS =
this is totally annoying because your partner would never want you to go out with your friends and would like you to be forever with him or her only. Gosh! You're a person too! You have your own friends too!
6.) RELIGION =
this is a very uncommon reason for others, because there's the word "compromise" right? But for some, who really have different views in their religion would always argue about their beliefs, they tend to drag their partner into their own viewpoint. Some people, just don't like to change their religion so they just have to find a partner who has the same point of view. Religion is something that partners should never ever fight about. The thing is, I have my religion, you have your religion so let's keep it that way! But for some, that just won't do, it's either you change your religion or just break up.
7.) "YOUR PARENTS DON'T LIKE ME!" =
I have a friend who was really pissed off with her boyfriend's parents because every time they would go to his house, the parents would show the girl that they really don't like her by glaring, mumbling words like "she's here again", and making her feel that she really is not welcome there. Total piss off!
8.) MOMMA'S BOY! =
mom's who spoiled their "baby boy" and loves them too much would not let any woman take him away from them, so they do many things to get rid of the girlfriend.
9.)ROUTINE! =
a relationship should always have surprises and should be lots of fun! That's mostly in the early stages of the relationship though. But for some, when they have been together for quite some time, they tend to do things in a routine way, that the partner becomes bored and tired of doing the same things all the time.
10.) PRIVACY =
there are just some things that needs to be left untouched. Some people do not like their partners to browse through some of their things, emails, letters, phone messages, etc. It just shows that you don't trust your partner that much so you really had to see every single thing he has.
11.) DON'T PUT ME DOWN! =
if the partner makes the other feel less important like saying negative things all the time. This is really not healthy for a relationship like, making the partner feel embarrassed in public places and then calling them stupid or using names, that's totally way out of hand. I, myself experienced this kind wherein for him, I'm always ugly, annoying, stupid, etc. It made me realize that he should just find another girl if he would just put me down instead of encourage me to improve. With this kind of partner, you don't deserve that kind of treatment, believe me! Life would be better without a person who puts you down in any way he can.
Well, these are just SOME of the reasons why relationships fail. The ones I wrote down were reasons why some of my friends' and my relationships failed. I know there are a lot more but let's just end it here for now. Just remember, talk it out first before you break up. If you think your relationship can still be saved, do it. But if you can't take it anymore, don't be a martyr! There's someone out there for you!
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